Drawing Boundaries: Why I Choose to Exclude Toxicity In My Life

In life, we often encounter individuals who, for one reason or another, bring more negativity than positivity into our lives. As someone who values authenticity, kindness, and mutual respect, I've come to realize the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing my well being above all else. That's why I firmly believe that once someone proves to me they're not a good person, they're no longer welcome in my life.

It's not an easy decision to cut ties with someone, especially if they're someone you're forced to engage with at times. But when someone consistently demonstrates behavior that goes against your values and undermines your sense of self worth, it's essential to take a step back and reassess the relationship.

For me, being a "good person" goes beyond simple acts of kindness or generosity. It's about integrity, empathy, and treating others with dignity and respect. When someone repeatedly exhibits behaviors that are dishonest, manipulative, or hurtful, it's a clear indication that they're not aligned with my values.

I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt and offering second chances when warranted. However, there comes a point where enough is enough. If someone consistently shows me they're not capable of being a positive influence in my life, I have to prioritize my own well being and distance myself from that toxicity.

Drawing boundaries and cutting ties with toxic individuals isn't about holding grudges or seeking revenge. It's about self preservation and creating a healthy environment where I can thrive and grow. By removing toxic influences from my life, I make space for positivity, growth, and genuine connections with those who lift me up rather than tear me down.

It's important to remember that setting boundaries isn't a one-time event but an ongoing process. It requires introspection, self awareness, and the courage to stand up for yourself and your values. While it may be difficult to let go of certain relationships, I've found that the peace of mind and emotional well being that come from surrounding myself with positive influences are well worth it.

In conclusion, once someone proves to me they're not a good person, they're no longer welcome in my life. I choose to prioritize my well being and surround myself with individuals who uplift and support me. Drawing boundaries and cutting ties with toxicity is an act of self love and self respect, and it's a decision I stand by wholeheartedly.

Not only do toxic individuals effect you but the presence of toxic individuals can have a profound impact on our families. Children are especially sensitive to their environment, and exposure to negativity and drama can lead to feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and stress. As moms, it’s our responsibility to shield our children from harm and create a positive and nurturing atmosphere where they can thrive.

Strategies for Avoiding Toxic Individuals

1. Trust Your Instincts: As moms, we have a powerful intuition when it comes to recognizing potential threats to our families’ well-being. Trust your gut instincts and pay attention to how you feel around certain individuals. If someone consistently leaves you feeling drained or upset, it may be a sign that they are toxic.

2. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries with toxic individuals and stick to them. Be assertive about what behavior you will and will not tolerate, and don’t be afraid to cut ties with those who consistently disrespect your boundaries. Your family’s well-being comes first, and you have every right to protect it.

3. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Surround yourself and your family with positive influences, including supportive friends, family members, and community groups. Seek out activities and environments that uplift and inspire you, rather than dragging you down. My motto is to surround yourself with people who are "better" than you in different ways as it will only promote self growth.

4. Practice Self-Care: Taking care of yourself is essential when dealing with toxic and trashy individuals. Make self-care a priority, whether it’s through exercise, meditation, hobbies, or spending quality time with loved ones. Remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup, and taking care of yourself allows you to be the best mom you can be.

5. Lead by Example: Finally, lead by example for your children. Show them how to set healthy boundaries, prioritize self-care, and surround themselves with positive influences. Teach them to value their own well-being and to stand up for themselves in the face of toxicity.

As moms, we have a fierce protective instinct when it comes to our families. We will do whatever it takes to keep them safe and happy, even if it means cutting ties with toxic individuals. By recognizing toxic behavior, setting boundaries, surrounding ourselves with positivity, practicing self-care, and leading by example, we can create a loving and supportive environment where our children can thrive. Remember, you are the mama bear of your family, and you have the power to protect them from harm.